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Must I repay the jerk?

更新时间:2012-12-13    来源/发布:www.en369.cn    作者/编辑:英语作文网

Dear Cary,

Earlier this year, two and half years into a long-distance relationship and after over a year of serious job searching, I finally found a job that allowed me to move 8,000 miles across the world to join my boyfriend. About five weeks later, he finally said what had been pretty obvious since I arrived — he was no longer interested in me or our relationship. He refused to explain or seek counseling, saying  the “feeling was gone.” While breaking up, things were said and done, or not said or done by both of us and we are out of contact, permanently, I suspect.

I moved out and things are generally going OK. Life here is much more costly on a solo budget and I sometimes feel lonely being so far from anyone I really know or who shares my language/culture. So, I’ve reframed this as a one- or two-year adventure and this helps me feel more positive when I miss my friends and family back home. I can still get angry that he pulled the rug out from under me so my first impression at the new job was of a distracted person with personal issues. Or that the great new chapter opened with being pushed away and left alone. But, I’ve turned things around at work and I recognize I am better off without him.

Must I repay the jerk?

Just before I moved here, he lent me some money to cover off debts so I could pay him back without interest. Then, three days after I got here, my wallet was stolen so he lent me more money to cover expenses while I waited for the new cards to arrive and my new salary to kick in. When we broke up, I sent him a note saying I would repay him what I owed. Each month, I go to the bank and pay off a chunk of that.

It’s always been important to me to honor debts and obligations. However, as unpaid contributions to maintain pension benefits back home pile up and I can’t save anything, I feel like I am working to pay off this person who turned out to be someone quite different than I imagined. I’ve started to question the whole situation and am torn between doing the “right” thing and pay back every cent he gave me, and another increasingly loud voice that says, “What about his commitments to you?”

I’m not sure if I’m justified in thinking I should consider my own needs now and pay back what I am comfortable with or if this is just residual bitterness making me rationalize stiffing someone who hurt me but once helped me out of the kindness of his heart.

Thank you,

A Regular Reader

Dear Regular Reader,

It must be tempting to tell him that you, too, have had a sudden change of heart, and for some reason you just aren’t feeling the desire to pay him the money back. These things happen, sweetie. The heart knows what it wants, and so does the wallet.

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