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一个美丽的方法寻找心灵的宁静 A Beautiful Method to Find Peac

更新时间:2011-08-30    来源/发布:www.en369.cn    作者/编辑:英语作文网

  How many times have you gotten upset because someone wasn’t doing their job, because your child wasn’t behaving, because your partner or friend wasn’t 1)living up to his or her end of the bargain? How many times have you been irritated when someone didn’t do things the way you’re used to? Or when you’ve planned something carefully and things didn’t go as you’d hoped?
  This kind of anger and irritation happens to all of us—it’s part of the human experience.
  One thing that irritates me is when people talk during a movie. Or 2)cut me off in traffic. Or don’t wash their dishes after eating. Actually, I have a lot of these little annoyances—don’t we all? And it isn’t always easy to find peace when you’ve become upset or irritated.

 

  Let me 3)let you in on a little secret to finding peace of mind: see the glass as already broken.


  See, the cause of our stress, anger and irritation is that things don’t go the way we like, the way we expect them to. Think of how many times this has been true for you.
  And so the solution is simple: expect things to go wrong, expect things to be different than we hoped or planned, expect the unexpected to happen. And accept it.
  One quick example: on our recent trip to Japan, I told my kids to expect things to go wrong—they always do on a trip. I told them, “See it as part of the adventure.”
  And this worked like a charm. When we inevitably took the wrong train on a foreign-language subway system, or when it rained on the day we went to Disney Sea, or when we took three trains and walked 10 blocks only to find the4)National Children’s Castle is closed on Mondays … they said, “It’s part of the adventure!” And it was all OK—we didn’t get too bothered.

  多少次,你因为某人不履行其职责而烦恼,因为孩子不听话而烦恼,因为伴侣或朋友不遵守诺言而烦恼?又有多少次,你因为某人没有按你一惯的方式做事而生气?或是因为周详计划却落得事与愿违的结局而恼怒?
  这类气愤和恼怒发生在我们每个人的生活中——它是人生体验的一部分。
  使我恼怒的事包括有人在我看电影时聊天,有人超我车,有人用餐后不清洗盘子。事实上,我有许多类似的小烦恼——我们每个人都有,不是吗?而且,每当我们变得心烦意乱或恼怒,总是很难平静下来。
  让我告诉你一个使自己平静下来的秘诀:把玻璃杯看作是已经破碎了的。
  你瞧,我们之所以感到有压力,感到气愤、恼怒都源于事情没有按我们喜欢的,期望的方式发展。想想有多少次都是因为这样。
  要是这样,解决办法就简单了:料想事情可能会出问题,料想事情可能会不按照我们所希望的或是计划的方向发展,料想会有意外之事发生。并且学会接受。
  举个简单的例子:我和孩子们最近去日本旅行时,我让他们做好心理准备,旅途也许会不太顺利——旅途中总会遇到这样那样的状况。我告诉他们:“把遇到的意外状况看作是冒险的一部分”。
  这心态如魔法般奏效。当不可避免的事发生,比如我们在使用外文指示的地铁系统中坐错车,或是在我们去迪斯尼海洋乐园的那天下起了雨,或是我们坐了三趟火车,又步行了10个街区,却发现国立儿童馆逢周一闭馆……孩子们会说:“这是冒险的一部分!”,而且一切都还好,我们并没有因为那些事而过于烦恼。

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